Your Guide to Navigating Triggers and Temptations
The holidays and party seasons can be some of the toughest times to stay sober. Everywhere you look, there may be alcohol flowing, people letting loose, and old triggers lurking around the corner. But the good news is you can protect your sobriety and still enjoy yourself with the right tools and mindset.
Here are some practical tips to help you stay sober during the holidays and at social gatherings:
1. Plan Ahead
Before you go, have a clear plan:
- How long will you stay?
- Who can you call if you feel uncomfortable?
- Do you have an exit strategy if things get overwhelming?
2. Bring Your Own Drinks
Having your own non-alcoholic drinks on hand helps avoid awkward offers. Bring sparkling water, sodas, or your favorite NA alternatives so you never feel empty-handed.
3. Know Your Triggers
Is there a certain friend, place, or vibe that sets off cravings? Be honest with yourself. If you know a party is too risky, it’s okay to say no.
4. Have a Support Buddy
Bring a trusted sober friend or someone who understands your goals. If that’s not possible, keep your sponsor or accountability partner on speed dial.
5. Practice Saying No
It can feel awkward to turn down a drink, but you don’t owe anyone an explanation. A simple "No thanks" or "I’m good" is enough. Practice it until it feels natural.
6. Focus on Connection
Remember why you’re there: to connect and make memories. Dance, play games, help the host—be present in ways that don’t revolve around drinking.
7. Have an Exit Plan
Drive yourself or arrange your own ride so you can leave if the situation gets uncomfortable or tempting.
8. Celebrate Small Wins
Each sober event builds your confidence. Reward yourself afterward with something healthy that feels good—a special meal, a movie, or extra self-care.
Things to Avoid to Protect Your Sobriety:
- Don’t test yourself by going to high-risk parties "just to see" if you can handle it.
- Don’t isolate if you’re skipping an event—plan a safe alternative like a movie night with sober friends.
- Avoid people who pressure you or don’t respect your boundaries.
- Don’t forget HALT: Stay mindful of being Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired—these states can weaken resolve.
Remember: It’s not about missing out—it’s about showing up for yourself and your goals. Staying sober during the holidays is possible, and you’ll thank yourself the next day for honoring your commitment.
You’ve got this. Stay connected, stay prepared, and celebrate each win, one day at a time.