Relapse Doesn’t Start with the Drink — It Starts in Your Head

Relapse Doesn’t Start with the Drink — It Starts in Your Head

The actual moment of relapse — the drink, the hit, the pill — is just the final scene in a longer story. Most relapses start subtly, long before substances reenter the picture. Recognizing early warning signs can help you pivot before it’s too late.

Three Stages of Relapse:

1. Emotional Relapse – You’re not thinking about using, but your emotions and behaviors are setting the stage. Signs include:

    • Bottling up feelings
    • Isolating
    • Poor sleep/eating habits
    • Skipping meetings

2. Mental Relapse – The internal tug-of-war begins.

    • Cravings increase
    • Glorifying past use
    • Minimizing consequences
    • Bargaining (e.g., "just one")

3. Physical Relapse – The act of using again.

How to Interrupt the Cycle:

  • Talk it out. Speak to someone in recovery. Be brutally honest.
  • Identify HALT triggers. Are you Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired?
  • Change your environment. Go for a walk, hit a meeting, call a friend.
  • Recommit daily. Sobriety is a one-day-at-a-time gig.

Relapse doesn’t have to be part of your story — but if it is, it’s not the end. Many people find their strongest recovery after a slip. Use it. Learn from it. Get back up and keep pushing forward.

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